A Paradox
An extract from the writings of Joseph van Keulen
A Paradox as an apparent contradiction invites us, to
look and perceive from a different perspective so that the contradiction
disappears. Then the situation becomes clear, understandable and it all
starts to make (perfect) sense again. This usually means we need to take
a different vantage point or view or appraise the issue from a higher
systems perspective. Generally this means leaving the Either / Or reasoning
(duality approach) and including a third dimension or perspective into
every situation. It is via this third position that we better understand
conflict and opposition and can start looking for solutions and ways forward.
From the perspective of one of the parties in the opposition a lasting
solution can never be seen.
An example: In order to have a conflict one has to have
something in common. So the good news is that the conflict confirms the
existence of a common connection and dimension. To understand that connection
and dimension of the conflict we need to introduce a missing third element
that provides us with the insight or overview what the fight, competition
or controversy is all about. Let’s talk football (or Iraq for that
matter). Say we see two teams battling with each other, then the perspective
of one of the teams does not tell us much other than that there is a common
interest with the other. If however we introduce the public on the stand
or the football association as the third element then we suddenly get
context and meaning. The question we seek to answer determines which third
element is relevant at the time. Suppose that one of the parties in the
conflict tries to impose its views (even when this party is by far the
strongest) then we can be sure that no solution will be found. Especially
in such situations only via the third element is it that a solution can
be found. So in the football case we should go and talk to the Football
Association or the public on the stand as the third party!

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